Raising a teenager can be one of life’s most challenging and rewarding experiences, but it isn’t always easy. Having worked with teenagers for many years as a mentor and coach, I have seen firsthand what works – and doesn’t – when preparing them for adulthood. In this blog post, I will share my lessons learned on what not to do when raising a teenager so you can avoid some of the pitfalls that Parents go through during this tumultuous time.
Set unreasonable expectations
Children need to make rules. But they don’t have to be unrealistic. Expectations from a child are good only when they are realistic. Don’t expect your child not to make mistakes. Think back to when you were going through adolescence and look at the situation from that perspective. When you place unrealistic expectations on them, it can leave the child feeling frustrated, inadequate, and overwhelmed.
Be too strict or disciplinary
Being firm and consistent with discipline is important when raising a teenager. However, being overly critical or excessively punishing will not help your teen in any way. Instead, it will only lead to resentment and anger, which will not foster a healthy relationship.
Expect the worst
If you read many parenting books, you might think your teen will act badly. But this isn’t always the case. It can be tough for teenagers because sometimes parents don’t know how to handle their behavior. Your teenager won’t have any reason to misbehave if you’re positive and supportive.
Teenagers can make their own decisions and don’t need all the guidance a younger child might require. If you try to control them too much, they may start to feel suffocated and rebel against your rules. Instead, help them by teaching them good decision-making skills and providing support when needed.
Think that the child is your property
Many parents treat their children like they own them. It makes it harder for children to get an education. When you make decisions for your child, he does not like it because he feels left out. Talk to him about his future and let him make his own decisions. It will make him feel important and more responsible.
Getting wrapped up in work and other responsibilities is easy, but don’t forget to spend time with your teenager. Showing that you care by taking the time to listen and talk to your teen will make them feel more secure and appreciated. Ignoring their feelings can lead to negative behavior or even depression.
Treat your teenager like a helpless child
Your child is growing up and will soon be a teenager. They will not need your help as much. Remember that your child is not helpless and can do things independently. Teenagers are independent and want to be treated like adults, not children. So it is not a good idea to treat a 15-year-old like you would a 5-year-old.
Try to control everything
Your teen needs to grow and learn from his own mistakes. Trying to control every aspect of their lives will only lead to resentment. Instead, let them make their own decisions, even if wrong. It is the best way for your teenager to learn and grow.
These are just some things you should not do when raising a teenager. Understanding that every teen is different is important, so be prepared for unexpected surprises and emotions. Remember that with patience and understanding, you can navigate through this exciting but sometimes challenging stage of life!